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Affirmation
has been used by successful people for centuries. It has helped many ordinary
people achieve extraordinary results in their lives. It has turned many failures
into successes. It has made many miracles happen in the history of human evolution.
However, the majority of people who use affirmation find that it doesn’t
work. Why is this the case? What are the elements that people have missed when
they use affirmation techniques? I constantly ask myself these questions, and
seek for the answers. The result is, no one book gives the complete answer.
Some tips given in one book work for a specific situation, but not for others.
Other books give other tips that work for other situations, but not for this.
I have tested and filtered out the ineffective ones, and left only what I call
the ultimate effective technique secrets. The purpose of affirmation: Before
I give you the effective techniques, I must make you understand the true purpose
of affirmation. Simply stated, the purpose of affirmation is to pass a command
from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind has
the ability, in anything it accepts as true, to do whatever it takes to turn
it into reality. The purpose of an affirmation is to pass a message to the subconscious
mind, and to make it believe the message is true. So this brings us to the first
element of an effective affirmation.
1.
The affirmation must be believable to the subconscious mind
Most of the affirmations people use, fail at this first stage.
They tend to give an unrealistic
message to the subconscious mind, hoping for a positive response. If you are
financially broke, and you say to yourself I earn R100,000 per year, is this
believable to your mind? If your body is totally out of shape, and you say to
yourself I am very attractive, is this believable to your mind? I doubt it.
What if you are currently broke, and you want to make R100,000 per year? What
if you are out of shape, and you want to make yourself attractive? I find the
best and easiest way is to use the word I choose in your affirmation. Instead
of saying I earn R100,000 per year. Say I choose to earn R100,000 per year Instead
of saying I am very attractive Say I choose to feel that people find me attractive
Do you feel the difference?
2.
The subconscious mind seeks for proof.
There is a misconception
that the affirmation must be repeated thousands of times before it can be installed
in the subconscious mind. This is not necessarily true. You can use the repetition
method to embed your affirmation, but there is an easier way. It is, at the
time you find the proof, state your affirmation. Many people stay in poverty
because they associate pain with money. Whenever they spend their money, they
think of their bills, loans etc. This will automatically lead to ultimate pain.
It is the feeling you attach to money that makes you rich or poor. How can we
turn this to our advantage? Instead of feeling pain when spending money, what
if we associate pleasure with it? Next time when you go out shopping, at the
moment you take out your money or credit card, say this affirmation to yourself
I always have more than enough to spend. See how you feel. This works because
the subconscious mind sees the proof. As long as you have some money left in
your pocket, this affirmation is always true, so the subconscious mind will
believe it. How about if we combine the first and second methods together and
make an affirmation like this: I choose to feel that I always have more than
enough to spend. Say this at the time you spend your money. See how you feel.
You don’t have to repeat it thousands of times, a few times of real life
proof will make your subconscious mind believe it.
3.
The affirmation must trigger feelings.
A fact about the subconscious mind is that it does not speak in words, you can
only communicate with it through feelings, and emotions. There are two methods
that you can use to trigger your feelings. The first method is to use words
that involve feelings. Words like fun, enjoyable, comfortable, delightful will
work effectively. The second method is to use imagination. Visualize that the
situation stated in your affirmation has already come true. See yourself in
that situation and feel the feelings. (I will give more details for effective
visualization in my future articles; stay tuned!)
4.
The affirmation must obey the 3 Ps factor.
The 3 Ps are Positive,
Present Tense, and Personal. Affirmations must be stated positively. Instead
of saying I am not fat, say I choose to stay slim. The reason for this is that
before the mind knows the meaning of, I am not fat, it must think of what fat
means first. So saying that statement will inevitably lead to the feeling of
being fat. Affirmations must be in the present tense. Many books mention this.
However, I only agree to some extent. If you say I have a luxury car, your mind
will not believe you. The reason I include this here is that once it is combined
with the first technique, it will work perfectly. Now say I choose to have a
luxury car. Your mind will do its best to bring it into reality. Affirmations
must be personal. Your subconscious mind only works for you, not for others.
If you say Ann loves me, it will not be effective, because you have no control
over Ann. Now say I choose to feel that Ann really loves me. This time you are
in control, because you can control your own feelings.
5.
Personal development affirmations should be stated in the comparative.
I am confident may not be as effective as I am becoming more and more confident.
An even better affirmation might be I choose to feel more and more confident.
The reason for using the comparative, is because there is no end to how much
more confident you can become. Otherwise, your mind may think you are already
confident enough, and it will not need to do any more work. These 5 techniques
are the most effective ones that I have found from my research on affirmations.
If you can use all the 5 techniques, I guarantee your results will be amazing.
Even if you only
use one or two of the techniques stated here, you will find your affirmations
will become far more effective.
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